My friend doesn’t support good habits.I end up relapsing when I’m around her. What should I do?
I also told my friend that I am becoming vegetarian again after a year of eating meat again. This is really important to me b/c of humane issues and health reasons…I just feel better not eating meat. However, my friend gets irritated and offers me meat all the time. A couple of times I said “okay” and had some of the chicken pizza she ordered. But then I told her that I don’t want to do that anymore. She gets angry with me and keeps offering the meat, like I’m a weirdo or something.
She also puts down my spiritual beliefs about *** and relationships. I believe in waiting until marriage until having ***. She tells me that if I do this, my boyfriend will be having *** with another girl on the side until I give him ***.
All of my friends intolerances of my beliefs are hurting me. What should I do? When I try to gradually see her less and less, she calls me all the time and asks me for help with something. She says she wants to be friends for life. But her lifestyle is affecting my personal life badly.
By: sweetheart
Tags: Lifestyle, Sex And Relationships, Spiritual Beliefs
February 14th, 2009 at 15:28
You need to learn to say “no”. Practice it whenever she calls.
February 17th, 2009 at 11:31
You need to be firm with her and tell her what her effect on you is and that you want it to stop. Maybe it’s not such a good idea to be friends with her if she refuses to see your side or respect your choices.
February 19th, 2009 at 01:07
Those aren’t friends, they’re losers. Lose them. No point being healthy physically when you have all that emotional/mental negativity. Dump her like you dumped meat.
February 21st, 2009 at 13:27
You either learn more self control to turn down the pot, meat, whatever when you are around her or you cut her from your life and tell her that you don’t feel your relationship with her is healthy for you and since she doesn’t respect your choices and beliefs, it’s best you two part ways.
You make your own choices. Your friend doesn’t make you smoke or eat meat. She’s free to disagree with your choices and you’re free to stick up for yourself. If you can’t do that and don’t like her disrespecting you, then she’s not a good friend and you should be able to figure out what to do about that. Move on.
February 23rd, 2009 at 14:58
i totally understand u same thing happened with me.. my friends were smoking pot, having *** and doing things that i didnt want to do. i dealed with them till high school and when i got to college i stopped talking to all of them.. i made new friends who do their thing but dont try to impose their beliefs on me.. i also am trying to go back to become a vegetarian and i dont believe in having *** till marriage.. ur bf wont be sleeping around i’m 19 my bf is 26 and was a party guy but when he met me and i told him i was a virgin n was staying like that till marriage i think that made him way more attracted to me and he respected me more